It is often felt that sex is only for the young
and attractive and with declining age and drive (in both sexes) whatever
interest one had in sex also goes down, very often leading to misunderstandings.
It is commonly seen that while women attribute the lack of sexual activity to
lack of interest on part of their husbands, men blame the non-performance to a
lack of interest in their wives.
The million-dollar question "Is declining sexual interest the result or the
cause of less frequent intercourse?" Just like egg and chicken! Age is
certainly the commonest cause of failing sex drives in men, prevalent myths
coming a close second. Many women still believe (?wrongly) men have stronger
desires than women.
The beginning of menopause can provide a feeling of liberation for some women,
which may lead to an increased interest in sex. Whereas, in other women there is
a definite decline in libido or sex drive.
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intercourse be difficult after menopause? |
Certainly there are real changes that come with aging. As skin sensitivity diminishes,
foreplay with the breasts and nipples loses some of its stimulating effect. Genital
foreplay is also uncomfortable. In older women the rate of lubrication is slow, just as it
takes longer for older men to achieve an erection, many women unnecessarily avoid
intercourse because of pain and anxiety - in some cases these problems could be alleviated
by vaginal lubricants and the application can prove enjoyable for both partners.
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| My
husband doesn't seem interested. Is it me? |
Many men fear that when they are older they will fail sexually because of their own
inadequacy. An older man may take longer to achieve ejaculation, or may not be able to,
but it is not necessary to ejaculate every time intercourse takes place. It is akin to a
younger man being anxious for premature ejaculation. But this makes the woman think that
he is NOT interested in her and than starts a beeline to the parlour or the magical beauty
treatments. If you know these facts you can make allowances for, rather than demand on
your partner.
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| Will
I still experience orgasms? |
Certainly, any woman who experienced orgasms before menopause will continue to experience
them after. If you have experienced a poor quality of sex life before menopause, then it
diminish further. You must understand that aging need not affect your sexual capacity
until much later in her life, particularly if regular sexual stimulation takes place.
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| I
feel guilty about feeling sexual at may age. Am I wrong? |
Like so much of the menopause the impact of natural aging leaves women prone to
psychological reactions that can lead to sexual problems. At any age sexual effectiveness
can be reduced by doubts about performance; both men and women tend to resort to
recriminations. Most sexual problems of this nature could be avoided if men and women were
better prepared for normal genital changes. You should be prepared to talk it over a cup
of tea and then the pervading myths and distorted misinformation handed down through
generations will not affect your sex life.
Menopause is certainly no reason of healthy men and women to retire sexually. If you do,
then it is Voluntary Retirement Scheme with zero benefits. |
